Sunday, April 15, 2007

An Interview - Oh the Joys!!!!!

Here’s a perfect example of what a royal ditz I am....I didn’t even know that I had an AOL mail account until just now!

When I went onto AIM a message popped up stating that I had messages. I never opened an account with AOL....or I don’t remember doing so...that shouldn’t surprise anyone.

Oh, I amaze myself.

So when I opened my new account, other than having several nice, friendly emails from other bloggers from the past year (sorry but I'm not the snob that you must think I am for not responding) I found an email from the famous OhTheJoys. I love her. She wrote to me so she could interview me with the following questions.

I feel so honored.

Here goes:

How did you meet your significant other and when did you know he/she was THE ONE?

For the past two years I have been long distance dating Capt. I met Capt on an online dating site, EHarmony. I knew he was the one when we first held hands. Everything fell into place as we were walking along if we were part of something....the same something. As many of you know, I am in the process of finalizing my big move to his state into a house I am closing on in a few weeks. We will be living in the same town. It's a big adjustment for all of us, he's a single dad of two young children.

How would you characterize the person you were in high school? In college?

I was a no body in high school. I grew up in a home that had no emotions, no love, no communication. It was a battlefield and I did nothing but survive there until I was 18, then I moved out on my own and learned how to forgive my parents, put it all in my past and be who I am today. I truly think that my classmates didn't even know I existed. Heck, I didn't even know I existed!

I attended college when I was 30 years old. I was a single mother of three children and took 21 credits a semester while running a home/office cleaning business with my sister. One of the best part of those years was when the cheer leading coach of the college personally came up to me and asked me to join the team. Me, a cheerleader! It was an honor to be asked, but practically, with my kids and all, I couldn't do it.

After I graduated, I was told by a prominent law school that I was being considered for a full scholarship due to my GPA. It was an honor to be considered, but practically I couldn't do that to my children, I would have had to work full-time and attend law school full time 70 miles away. I don't regret not going to law school, I'm a better assistant than a I am a leader.

While I was in college I was a person who put my children first and concentrated on raising them to be well-adjusted, loving, successful people, and didn't think much about myself.

Now that my children are grown, I spend a lot of time figuring out what I like and what I want to do.

Tell us about a time in your life when you felt ashamed.

When my children were teenagers, I got married. My former husband left me for another woman. It was embarrassing because we were leaders in our church, we counseled couples. His behavior became more and more bizarre and he lapsed into addictions, then he began flaunting his girlfriend in front of me and our friends and I was devastated. The grief I felt was the worse thing I've ever gone through, I almost died from it. I was ashamed that I made such a horrible mistake by marrying him and for the pain my children experienced and witnessed. I've forgiven him. He would like to get back together, but I don't feel the same way towards him. I feel that it was a privilege that was given to me by God to go through all that pain and brokenness. It was about 5 years ago and I have learned so much about myself. More importantly, I learned never to get involved with unhealthy people anymore.

If you could ask a genie to grant you three wishes, what would your wishes be? (Wishing for more wishes is not allowed.)

I would wish that I could re-do my life up until now. That my childhood was wonderful, that I married the right man after I graduated college and that my children didn't have to go through watching me struggle to get to where I am today.

Then I would wish that my children continue to be happy and successful, making good decisions and continue to seek God.

Finally, I would wish that The Town of Brookhaven would finally lift the stupid violations on my property and pass the variances and Certificates of Occupancy so I could stop being so stressed out with all of their crazy demands and move to Connecticut already. I actually had to move my shed a few feet back from my front property line yesterday. Now all that's left is the concete foundation covering Jimmy Hoffa's body. And I'll probably get a stupid violation for that too!!!! Jeeze!!!!

Do you contest that the National Park Ranger Uniform is the sexiest uniform there is and, if so, what uniform would, in your opinion, trump that of the Park Ranger?

Well, let’s say that if the circumstances were honorable, I wouldn’t kick a man who was wearing in a National Park Ranger Uniform out of my bed, but I think that there’s something sexy about a guy wearing nothing but a tailored shirt..... that simply melts an honorable way, of course.

Capt is an officer in the Air Force. I’ve never seen him in his uniform, but if I did, I’d probably get myself into lots of trouble. Lots of trouble.

Ahem. *tugs at her turtleneck collar*

Thanks OhTheJoys! If anyone would like me to interview them, let me know. I promise to check my email account that is linked to this site more often.


Monica said...

Ah, the nor'easter. We didn't go out at all today, to Daughter's chagrin. She has a brand new Dora umbrella she's itching to try out. But I don't think Princess Dora will be a amatch for this. But at least it's not more snow and thank God our part of the neighborhood doesn't flood nearly as easily as the rest.

Looks like i've got quite a story to read here! Better get to it!

Dawn said...

I loved reading this. It makes your comment to me about addictions today more understandable. I don't understand them either! I do understand more about what happens in the body and brain once they have begun, but what I don't understand is how you do this to yourself - what makes someone take a drug, look at porn, take a drink, even take a drag on a cigarette, gamble, the first time. But we have such an awesome God who can DELIVER from addiction, not just rehabilitate or restore. Praise His Name!

Thanks for stopping by. Remember when I said months ago that I was going to do a piece on the time I met Nixon? I remember you saying you'd be interested in that story - it's still in my mind for a future post. I can't believe I haven't done it yet.

Best wishes with your house selling trauma.

Dawn said...

BTW, you should offer to do a commercial for EHarmony!

Oh, The Joys said...

I really enjoyed this! You are so real and honest.

Thanks for answering all my questions!!

OTJ (not famous)

Looney Mom said...

I think you would have been a great cheerleader!! Cute!

Something's off on your blog; a lot of what should be contained in the main blog section is spilling out into the sidebar... just thought I'd mention it because, well, that's what I do. hee hee.

Lala's world said...

oh that was so great! I just love how honest and sincere you are!

Looney Mom said...

Yes, of course T, I will help you fix it. Give me a couple of days...

Nadine said...

Theresa your honesty is amazing. I'm getting to know you from your writings. Thank you for your sincerity. I met another blogger who married someone she met on eHarmony and has done one of the commericals.

Terri said...

That was great....

it would be fun to get to know you...

it is horrible when your husband leaves you for another woman..
I know.. I married my high school sweetheart that was professional ballplayer for the Dodgers minor leagues... we were together until I was into my 30's....
he cheated on me every chance he could get and it was the most awful experience....
the way I felt.. he left me for dozens of women... the big pig!

Thank God for God!!!!

yerdoingitwrong said...

Hey Girl,

Wonderful questions and beautiful answers. This probably means you don't want to be interview again, huh??? =)

I've been there in marriage as well. It was SO PAINFUL. And I too Thank GOD for lots of things as well, but especially for the second chance at love and life!

Monica said...

Finally had a night to sit and bloghop awhile. I loved reading this! So like me you are, young Skywalker! I was a nobody in high school who blossomed in college. That's OK. Latebloomers stick around longer. But asked to be a cheerleader? Now that's cool!

Here's hoping you get through this house selling/buying madness soon!

MugwumpMom said...

I'm picturing you with the pom poms doing a Capt in his air force uniform happy dance....

aah ya, never mind

Dawn said...

The addiction saga continues - Part VII is up. Remember, it's not over yet!

pos7ed said...

> I met Capt on an online dating site, EHarmony
I learn such great things on the internet! I hadn't heard this (version) before.