An Interview - Oh the Joys!!!!!

Here’s a perfect example of what a royal ditz I am....I didn’t even know that I had an AOL mail account until just now!

When I went onto AIM a message popped up stating that I had messages. I never opened an account with AOL....or I don’t remember doing so...that shouldn’t surprise anyone.

Oh, I amaze myself.

So when I opened my new account, other than having several nice, friendly emails from other bloggers from the past year (sorry but I'm not the snob that you must think I am for not responding) I found an email from the famous OhTheJoys. I love her. She wrote to me so she could interview me with the following questions.

I feel so honored.

Here goes:

How did you meet your significant other and when did you know he/she was THE ONE?

For the past two years I have been long distance dating Capt. I met Capt on an online dating site, EHarmony. I knew he was the one when we first held hands. Everything fell into place as we were walking along together....as if we were part of something....the same something. As many of you know, I am in the process of finalizing my big move to his state into a house I am closing on in a few weeks. We will be living in the same town. It's a big adjustment for all of us, he's a single dad of two young children.

How would you characterize the person you were in high school? In college?

I was a no body in high school. I grew up in a home that had no emotions, no love, no communication. It was a battlefield and I did nothing but survive there until I was 18, then I moved out on my own and learned how to forgive my parents, put it all in my past and be who I am today. I truly think that my classmates didn't even know I existed. Heck, I didn't even know I existed!

I attended college when I was 30 years old. I was a single mother of three children and took 21 credits a semester while running a home/office cleaning business with my sister. One of the best part of those years was when the cheer leading coach of the college personally came up to me and asked me to join the team. Me, a cheerleader! It was an honor to be asked, but practically, with my kids and all, I couldn't do it.

After I graduated, I was told by a prominent law school that I was being considered for a full scholarship due to my GPA. It was an honor to be considered, but practically I couldn't do that to my children, I would have had to work full-time and attend law school full time 70 miles away. I don't regret not going to law school, I'm a better assistant than a I am a leader.

While I was in college I was a person who put my children first and concentrated on raising them to be well-adjusted, loving, successful people, and didn't think much about myself.

Now that my children are grown, I spend a lot of time figuring out what I like and what I want to do.

Tell us about a time in your life when you felt ashamed.

When my children were teenagers, I got married. My former husband left me for another woman. It was embarrassing because we were leaders in our church, we counseled couples. His behavior became more and more bizarre and he lapsed into addictions, then he began flaunting his girlfriend in front of me and our friends and I was devastated. The grief I felt was the worse thing I've ever gone through, I almost died from it. I was ashamed that I made such a horrible mistake by marrying him and for the pain my children experienced and witnessed. I've forgiven him. He would like to get back together, but I don't feel the same way towards him. I feel that it was a privilege that was given to me by God to go through all that pain and brokenness. It was about 5 years ago and I have learned so much about myself. More importantly, I learned never to get involved with unhealthy people anymore.

If you could ask a genie to grant you three wishes, what would your wishes be? (Wishing for more wishes is not allowed.)

I would wish that I could re-do my life up until now. That my childhood was wonderful, that I married the right man after I graduated college and that my children didn't have to go through watching me struggle to get to where I am today.

Then I would wish that my children continue to be happy and successful, making good decisions and continue to seek God.

Finally, I would wish that The Town of Brookhaven would finally lift the stupid violations on my property and pass the variances and Certificates of Occupancy so I could stop being so stressed out with all of their crazy demands and move to Connecticut already. I actually had to move my shed a few feet back from my front property line yesterday. Now all that's left is the concete foundation covering Jimmy Hoffa's body. And I'll probably get a stupid violation for that too!!!! Jeeze!!!!


Do you contest that the National Park Ranger Uniform is the sexiest uniform there is and, if so, what uniform would, in your opinion, trump that of the Park Ranger?

Well, let’s say that if the circumstances were honorable, I wouldn’t kick a man who was wearing in a National Park Ranger Uniform out of my bed, but I think that there’s something sexy about a guy wearing nothing but a tailored shirt..... that simply melts me...in an honorable way, of course.

Capt is an officer in the Air Force. I’ve never seen him in his uniform, but if I did, I’d probably get myself into lots of trouble. Lots of trouble.

Ahem. *tugs at her turtleneck collar*

Thanks OhTheJoys! If anyone would like me to interview them, let me know. I promise to check my email account that is linked to this site more often.