Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Role Reversal

Boy: Theresa, I'm going upstairs to take a shower.

YNB: Okay.


YNB: Okay.

Boy: Theresa, where am I going?

YNB: To take a shower.

Boy: Good listening.

Sunday, March 16, 2008

When One Door Closes...

My future Father-in-Law is coming home from his missions trip to Brazil this Wednesday. I'm so excited to hear of all the amazing experiences he had. He went on the same trip last year and when he came back he had some great stories and life-changing experiences. From the two e-mails he has sent, it seems like this trip was even more exciting.

Before he left I was telling him how frustrating it is to be unemployed and how difficult it is to find a job in my field because it usually takes months to get an interview and he told me, "Now, by the time I get back, I expect you to have your whole life figured out." (or something to that effect). He was joking, of course, which is the same type of lovable sense of humor that Capt has.

He doesn't know it yet, but it was a prophecy because:

I got notice today that beginning April 1st I will be working for the State of Connecticut on a part-time basis, in the town where I live, as close to my house as physically possible (4 miles down the road). And although the job is very prestigious and the benefits plum, the pay is not adequate.

But then again....and as always, God provides a way. He provides a way that could never even be imagined. I have an amazing offer to supplement my income at my leisure doing something that I know, in the area of law that I'm sure of, and I can make my own hours working from home.

FROM HOME!!! Which means the so much to me. I love being there when the kids need me. I love making cookies for them when they get home from school. I love helping them with their projects and homework. I love having dinner made for when Capt gets home from work so that he can get the kids off to their activities without having to feed them something quick. I love sitting down at the dinner table taking about our day.

I can still meet with the mothers for the Mom's In Touch International prayer meetings.

As you can see, I'm so excited.

And it is soooooo true that when God closes a door, He opens another... or two!

Friday, March 14, 2008

Update, All is Fine

Many have written emails to me asking if I'm okay because of my lack of posting recently. Thank you for your concern. I've been going through a lot of changes this past month and working through them.

Although I moved to CT almost a year ago (but still worked in NY), I only permanently lived in my house starting 2 months ago. I was not as prepared as I thought for the separation of my family and friends and the isolated feelings that happened once I left Long Island permanently.

The job I relocated for turned out to be filled with unfriendly co-workers and a boss who has a reputation for being a character (that's the nice version). Coming from a firm that treated me professionally and like an equal must have spoiled me because the way I was treated here knocked me for a loop. I didn't see it coming. Lesson learned; horrible, horrible experience put behind me.

I have taken a couple of trips back to NY to see my children and friends this past month. That has helped a lot.

Searching for a new job has been a struggle and a humbling experience. Thankfully, there are a few options now that Capt and I are working on.

Capt and his kids moved into my house a few weeks ago for 2 reasons. His house has to get ready to be sold and for financial reasons. The kids have done exceptionally well with the adjustment, better than we thought. They have jumped in and helped with chores, painting, organizing much to our amazement. I like order and cleanliness, that is not a priority for Capt. Thankfully, the kids have respected that and actually seem to enjoy it.

Figuring out my role in the children's lives now that we all live in the same household has taken some effort and lots of prayer. It's going to be an on-going process, but we are all on the right track.

Being in this house, filled with love, quiet, fireside dinners, wild dancing in the family room (I've got some wild dance skillz, just ask Pookie), board games and jacks (the only 'sport' I can master) and just simply learning about each other has been perfectly wonderful. I look forward to our marriage in July and watching the kids blossom into teenagers soon.

And I will adjust to not having my adult children close by. And I will make new friendships here. In fact, I'm off to my Mom's In Touch prayer meeting in a few minutes. Those women are on fire with praying for our kids.

So, I'm fine, God's got me in a quiet place right now working out big adjustments and preparing me for future things. I'm happy and loving my life.

I'll be back soon.